I get this question all the time:
“I used my opener, she responded, what do I do next?”
Obviously, the general answer to this is: the Transition phase.
The specific answer to “what kind of Transition?” is often a cold read. A cold read is where you tell someone something about themselves that rings true to them, even without any particular knowledge about the person. As you may know from my book Magic Bullets, cold reads are one of the four major types of Transitions. It’s my favorite type of Transition, and I use cold reads in about 90% of my approaches.
Cold reads are one of the easiest techniques to develop, because women will give you instant feedback. When you tell a woman about herself, she will react and give cues to how well your description “fits.”
Over time, you will get better and better at finding good universal cold reads. You will also get better at calibrating your cold reads to take educated guesses about a woman’s personality based on her looks, clothes, mannerisms, and voice.
Sample Cold Read: The Eye Angle Transition
Here’s an example of a good cold read Transition when you meet a woman. This routine works on the theory that eyes that are slanted downwards come across as caring and empathetic, whereas eyes slanted upwards convey a more sincere but fierce impression.
You can use this routine at any point during your opener; even interrupt her at any time to start this one.
“That’s really interesting.”
“Did you know that if your eyes slant downwards your first impression tends to be empathetic and approachable whereas if your eyes slant upwards people tend to think you’re fierce and unapproachable?”
There are two options from here:
If her eyes slant down “Do you find that people are generally friendly towards you but you really only let a select group of people become really close to you?”
If her eyes slant up – “Do you find that people don’t always open up to you straight away and you only let a select group of people become really close to you anyway?”
“Yeah, you seem like the sort of person that enjoys having friends but only lets a few people into the inner circle. I’m the same way.”
There’s nothing magical about this routine, but it’s a good way of interrupting a conversation that stemmed from your opening line and turning to topics that are of particular interest to beautiful women herself, how she comes across to others, what she is really like, etc. It also implies that you understand her world.
How she can actually be a nice person but because she is beautiful she has had to be less open at first to people because they often have an agenda or preconception about her. You’re already on your way to demonstrating value, which you know from Magic Bullets is the key currency of attraction.