How To Attract and Date Younger Women

If you’d rather be dating younger women — instead of jaded single mothers, bitter divorced feminists, and women who have more baggage than the Kardashian sisters after an all-day shopping spree — the first and most important thing to remember is that women actually LIKE older men.

It’s true. Over the past 200-plus years, the United States government has been taking statistics for the ages of couples getting married. And every year, there is a wider gap between the ages of women and men who marry each other.

Every year, the guys get a little older, and their wives get a little younger. In fact, when guys get married for the SECOND time, they marry women who are 10 years younger, on average.

I’ve also read that 20% of men who marry for a second time end up getting hitched to a woman that is over 20 YEARS YOUNGER.

A wife who is 20 years younger?? The horror! The “Femi-Nazis” get furious when they hear this! They’ll say it’s weird! Shocking! Unnatural! Perverted! And yet, no one minds if a RICH AND FAMOUS guy marries a woman who is way younger than he is. The fact is, it is EXPECTED for successful men to marry women who are many years younger than they are.

Why? Because this is what men are biologically PROGRAMMED to want: a youthful, sexy, horny, fertile woman who will bear them healthy children. And it’s not just about sex and having kids. Studies have shown that dating a younger woman INCREASES the life span of the man. Her youthful excitement and energy LITERALLY rubs off on you, and makes you feel, and act, younger.

OK, so now let’s talk about younger women. What are they programmed to want?

Answer: A masculine, healthy, secure, confident and emotionally stable MAN.

Notice, I didn’t say anything about looks, or six-pack abs, or money. I said MASCULINITY, SECURITY, STABILITY.

Those are the qualities that young women GO FOR, like a heat-seeking missile. Sure, she might think some 25-year-old jackass, who has zero ambition and tons of tattoos, is “hot.” But she will NOT feel long-term security and attraction with that guy. She WANTS the guy who has life experience and sophistication, and doesn’t “buy in” to her silly little emotional dramas. She wants a MAN who has a plan in life.

There are evolutionary reasons for this. Women are programmed to seek security and safety, which provide the best means to raise a child, and it’s a safe bet that an older man will have increased world knowledge, and other important assets including personal skills and greater life experience.

Society seems to force the view that it’s older men who are “chasing” younger women. But in more cases, it’s the women who are looking to date older men.

The second part of the proper mindset is knowing that if you dedicate yourself to learning these skills, and really get into it, within two years you will be having more fun with women, and enjoying more sex, than most guys get in their entire lifetime.

The average guy only has sex with 4-7 women in his entire lifetime, although that’s certainly not the story that the media seems to push onto guys.

That means you can be a virgin at 50, and as long as you’re able to fight through your internal barriers, change your beliefs and ideas, and take action, within a few years (or even months) you can have a lifetime worth of fun.

The key idea is to get started straight away, and lose the EXCUSES.

Treat the next few months as practice, and tell yourself that it will be a fun learning experience. Don’t ever think that it’s “too late,” or that you’ve struggled with women for too long for you to make a dramatic change.

If you have the mindset that you still have plenty of time left–and the truth is, you do — you are likely to take action, and feel less guilty and filled with regret (big energy killers).

You’ll be more relaxed, and you’re more likely to STAY motivated.

On the other hand, if you feel anxious and urgent because you “need to make up for lost time,” women are going to smell that desperation like cheap cologne.

How you convey your age is more important than the number of years you’ve been on this planet. By this, I mean be happy, have a youthful smile, and enjoy life. And certainly look at your jeans. (Yes, I’m serious!)

In fact, go and look at some new jeans this week. I always see older guys wearing totally unfashionable jeans, and it’s one of the most obvious indicators that they have an old, out-of-touch mentality.

Also take a cold, hard look at your hairstyle and wardrobe, and look to update them a bit. If you are happy, carefree, and loving life — and your wardrobe and personal style convey a youthful, fashionable edge — this is bound to make younger women notice:

I often coach older guys who are a bit “too serious.” Picture four young women out on Friday night, having a good time, relaxing after a big week at work. They just want to kick back and have fun with a few drinks.

If a guy starts talking with them about serious topics that LOWER their energy level, it’s just not going to fly. Women generally like older guys because they provide much more interesting conversation, and because they’re not predictable and one-dimensional like younger guys often are.

The typical 25-year-old woman is more emotionally mature than the guys her age, and for this reason, she often finds  herself more intrigued by older men. But there is a time and a place for being serious. Imagine what it feels like when you go from working hard at your job for months on end, and then taking a holiday and kicking back on a beach.

This is the laidback, carefree type of energy you want to bring to your interactions with younger women.

If you are having trouble lightening up and chilling out when you get involved in conversations with women, take a closer look at your reality and your lifestyle.

If your reality and lifestyle are completely filled with work and seriousness, then it can be pretty difficult to instantly switch into “fun” mode when you’re out meeting women.

“Serious” guys tend to watch serious movies and television shows (including a lot of TV news and politics, which can be quite depressing), and listen to music that isn’t in tune with the tastes of the younger generation. I suggest you switch up the types of shows, movies and music that you normally feel comfortable with. Try some TV shows like “Scrubs,” “Curb Your Enthusiasm,” and “The Office,” which aren’t particularly deep or meaningful but are laugh-out-loud funny.

Buy some magazines that are sexy, playful and fun. (Leave them out on your living room table — they will create cool conversational topics when younger women visit your place.)

Listen to some music that is new, and maybe a little “trashy.” The hot younger women know these bands. This also gives you fun conversational topics to talk to women about. That hot 25-year-old babe at the bar might know a surprising amount about politics, but that doesn’t mean she wants to talk about it when she’s unwinding with a few drinks. Save the deeper discussions for once you’re dating her. Her first impression of you should be fun, playful and youthful.

Some guys need to make a concerted effort to add some “light stuff” into their reality, so that being playful and relaxed around women isn’t such a challenge.

Also, when you talk to your friends, make an effort to not dwell on the serious stuff, and get in the habit of just being able to talk about stuff that is not that important and does not matter in the big picture of things.

As guys get older, their social circles tend to shrink. Your friends get married, have kids, and are immersed in their own lives. Or maybe you’ve moved recently and haven’t developed much of a social scene in your new city. Perhaps you just don’t go out much anymore, because you feel a little too “old” to be hanging around at the bars and clubs like you used to.

This may seem obvious, but you must get out of the house and make an effort to socialize. Maybe combine your socializing with an interest or hobby. Personal development groups always seem to be filled with attractive women.

If you’ve always been shy, then it’s time to shake that off and become more social. Make it one of your goals to make at least FIVE PEOPLE feel good about themselves, every week. This will lead to you creating a much broader SOCIAL NETWORK, and you will dramatically expand your chances of meeting the sexy younger woman who will become your next girlfriend.

Break any patterns of judging people, or staying in your shell, and make an effort to say hello and make friendships. You’d be surprised how easy it is to do, once you get started!

Before I finish, I want to give you a SUPER IMPORTANT tactic that I always use when I’m out socializing and meeting younger women.

I have to give credit to Zan Perrion for this technique. You may have read about Zan in the best-selling book “The Game.” The author of that book, Neil Strauss, as well as famous pickup artist Mystery, are both huge fans of Zan’s teachings on seduction — and he’s a featured contributor in my “Dating Younger Women” program.

Before I explain the technique, let me tell you about the #1 MISTAKE that men make, in their efforts to date young women:

These guys FRAME their age the wrong way.

They believe that their age is a HANDICAP — a reason for younger women to reject them — and so they try to CONCEAL their age and evade the issue.

If the average 40-year-old guy is talking to a 25-year-old woman, and she asks him how old he is, he’ll do one of two things:

1. He’ll bullshit her, and say that he’s younger than he really is. But she can tell he’s not being truthful. This makes him look foolish and dishonest, and makes her think that his age IS a problem.

2. Or, he’ll try to crack a joke about how “ancient” he is. He’ll say something like, “I’m old enough to be your father.” This just sounds creepy! Obviously this won’t score him any points…

Now, I want you to consider a DIFFERENT way to play it. You can TURN THE TABLES and make your age a reason for her to WANT you!

When you’re talking to a woman who is obviously significantly younger than you, don’t wait for her to ask YOU about your age.

Instead, get the “age issue” out in the open right away, and ELIMINATE IT.

Here’s what I said playfully to a young hottie last night, within 3 minutes of meeting her:

ME: “So, I’m going to guess you’re…22.” (I always guess a few years younger than what I really think she is.)

HER: “I’m 25.”

ME: “25? Wow, I’m 35. I don’t know if this could ever work out between us — the woman I normally date are pretty sophisticated and experienced…but I guess you seem pretty ‘together’ for your age…”

That’s a powerful way to FRAME the interaction. Right from the start, I’m ASSUMING that she’s interested in a relationship with me…but I’m not sure that SHE can measure up to MY standards, because I usually date “sophisticated women”…and I’m giving her a chance to PROVE herself to me.

And now, I start TESTING and TEASING her. I’ll talk to her about travel… music…art…good restaurants…movies…(topics that I know a lot about, and am excited about).

I TEASE her a little when she “shows her age” and can’t relate to the things I mention, and give her little verbal REWARDS when she proves that she can relate to me on MY level. But, I NEVER make her feel that I’m “sold” on her.

If it turns out we both love the same semi-obscure band, or movie, or we both love to travel to the same spots…I don’t get all excited and make it seem like she’s won me over.

I’ll give her a playful smirk, and I’ll say, “Hmm, I may have underestimated you.”

I’m sending her a message: to date a guy like me, you’ve got to MEASURE UP. And, by dating a guy like me, a young woman is going to get valuable knowledge and EXPERIENCE.

This technique will get you started on the right foot, but it’s just one step of the process. If you’re ready to learn the secrets of how to date young women for men over 35, you’ll definitely want to give the “Dating Younger Women” program a serious look.

From “re-calibrating” your attitude and mindset, to updating your sense of style…from the opening approach, all the way to the bedroom, and then managing the relationship on YOUR terms, so that her sexual attraction to you only GROWS…this is the ONLY program out there that covers every step. It’s the ultimate guide on how to date young women for men over 35, and it’s designed and guaranteed to give you MASSIVE success with the sexy young babes you’ve had your eye on!