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Live A Rockin’ Lifestyle Part 1 by Lance

As a kid, Lance says he was the “prototypical skinny, Dungeons & Dragons playing nerd—totally unpopular in high school.” He then discovered sports and dedicated himself to athletics and fitness. In college, he joined the rowing team and competed successfully at the collegiate and national level. Realizing that he had a talent for leading and communicating with people, Lance then became a crew coach.

He also decided to use these skills to branch out into coaching men in a different area: achieving confidence and success with women. He is the co-author of  www.honeyandlance.com, a popular blog about dating, relationships, sex and life.

Lance decided to get serious about improving his own skills with women after reading “The Game,” the best-selling book by Neil Strauss. It prompted him to immerse himself in learning the art of “pickup” and becoming what he calls a “social artist.”

This launched him on a journey of discovery about women, dating, attraction, and the nature of being a true man in today’s world. His goal is to live a life of passion and adventure, and have deep and meaningful relationships with all those around him.

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If you’re a guy over the age of 40, the key to getting dates with younger women is cultivating the right lifestyle. This principle applies to dating in general, but it’s especially important if you’re going after girls 10 or more years younger than yourself.

Let’s look at an example of a 40+ guy. Bill is 45, six feet tall, with average looks a little flabby but not obese. He’s got a full head of hair, though it’s graying and thinning a bit. He’s a working professional, makes a good living, owns his own house, and drives a nice car.

Bill is recently divorced and looking to meet a highly attractive, intelligent woman in her mid 20s to early 30s.

He’s not against the idea of dating women his age, but he’s strongly attracted to the younger hotties out there.

I respect where he’s coming from; I would be doing the exact same thing. I’m 33 and I actively seek out and date girls in the 21 to 26 age range, because that’s what I’m most attracted to so why settle for anything less?

A guy like Bill will typically convince himself that his age places him outside of the “ideal” search range of most younger hotties. He may believe that being divorced makes him “damaged goods” in the eyes of most never-married women. And he’s usually going to be self-conscious about his average looks and physique.

What Bill needs to realize, however, is that he has powerful assets working in his favor. He’s a successful professional (perhaps even an expert in his field), and this is huge. This is going to help him tremendously, because it indicates that he’s a man of means; he has money, security, intelligence, and it would be easy to assume that he’s ambitious and confident. These are all qualities that attractive younger women are looking for.

What else are younger women looking for? If she has reached her 30s and has never been married, she’s probably looking to settle down with the right guy and have kids. If she’s divorced with no kids, she may be looking to settle down again, or she may be looking to have some fun and play the field. These types of women are usually open to dating an older guy.

Or, if she’s single and has kids, she may be open to a casual sexual relationship because she doesn’t have a lot of time for a serious relationship, and would rather not introduce a new “boyfriend” to her kids at this time.

My point is that there are a variety of categories when you’re talking about younger women, and a multitude of reasons why they may be looking to date, or just have fun with, an older guy.

 Lifestyle

Now, back to my original premise: having the right lifestyle will attract younger women. Lifestyle encompasses a bunch of stuff, so let’s break it down:

Fitness and looks.

Having average looks doesn’t help, but it doesn’t hurt you either. Women are funny in that they’ll be immediately attracted to a hot guy, but they’ll be more deeply attracted to man with high social value. A lot of girls will even say they don’t care about looks they care more about intelligence, personality, and confidence.

If you’re a mature, independent professional, you’ve got a huge head start! Stack the deck even further by improving your fitness and looks. If you’re out of shape and carrying an extra 20-30 pounds (or more), get a gym membership and work out daily. Don’t just do it because you want to get chicks  do it because you’ll feel and look better, and because you’ll be healthier and live a longer life. In my opinion, there is zero excuse for not being fit, no matter your age.

Even if you’re lugging the spare tire but making an effort to get toned, people will take notice. Co-workers will ask, “have you lost weight?” and chicks will dig on you more. It’s an amazing feeling and it will encourage you to keep hitting the gym.

Go even further and play sports. Did you play soccer or basketball back in high school or college? How about running or cycling? Get back into it, train for an event, and enjoy the fitness benefits. Consider picking up a “cool” new sport like snowboarding or surfing. Make sure to get some sun. A tan goes a long way towards improving your disposition.

A 45-year old guy who’s fit and tanned suddenly looks like he’s 35. He’s also the handsome, sexy gentleman, as opposed to the middle-aged fatso.

Get a cool haircut.

This falls under the looks category, but it’s so important that I want to break it out as a separate item. DO NOT go through life with a lame, “older guy” haircut. The last thing you want is to look like a sad sack insurance salesman. If you have a full head of hair, grow it out a bit, go to an upscale stylist, and tell them you want a cool cut. Let them go to town.

One great tip is to find a gay male stylist, because they give the best cuts. I always advise to keep your hair its natural color (i.e. graying) because chicks think it’s dignified and sexy, and often times a dye job looks unnatural and is an obvious attempt to conceal your true age.

Are you balding or almost bald? If so, consider going clean-shaven if you have the right skull and body shape. Generally this looks great on leaner guys, but it can certainly work with the bigger guys if you have the right skull shape. You might try rocking the Mr. Clean look with a well-groomed goatee.

If you’re not sure what a cool cut for a 45-year old guy looks like, watch practically any television show and note the popular actors in your age range to get some idea. There are actors who have very little hair, but they style and groom themselves immaculately. Click here for more surefire tips on how to date young women.

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You’re Never Too Old To Get A Hot Younger Girlfriend

Get A Hot Younger Girlfriend

I have a friend named John who is in his early 40s, recently divorced, and trying to jump back into the dating scene. Like a lot of guys who are “back the game” after a long hiatus, John is interested in dating younger women: fun, sexy women in their 20s and early 30s. Those are the girls John wants to be with. He keeps in good shape. He’s a fun, outgoing guy. So why shouldn’t he go after the younger women he desires most?

But John as a “sticking point” that he always seems to run into when he takes younger women out on dates: he has a hard time Closing the Deal. He came to me with a question yesterday that I’ve been asked by many men:

“What’s the best way to invite a girl back to my place?”

Well, the first thing you need to understand is, women have a FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN. This is why it’s so important to project that you are a safe, stable, trustworthy guy. You can accomplish this by “dropping hints” during the conversation in a strategic way. And when your goal is to bring her home at the end of a date…and she’s never been inside your place before… it is natural for her to feel some reluctance.

This is because your place — your environment — is UNKNOWN to her.

Her female radar “kicks in,” and her mind comes up with reasons NOT to go there, such as…

– Your place might be dirty and unsanitary. (Women feel very uncomfortable in that type of environment.)

– You might have some weirdo roommate who is going to creep her out.

– You might have a girlfriend or wife that you didn’t tell her about — and she might show up and start some drama!

– You might live REALLY far away. When she goes home later, she’s going to have a hard time finding her way back to her place.

Those are just some of the things she might be thinking.

Here is my point: you need to ELIMINATE her concerns, suspicions, and fears and make it EASY for her to think, “sure, going to your place sounds fine.”

So how do you make her think this way? You SHOW her your place, and let her become familiar with it, BEFORE you take her out on the date! It’s actually SUPER easy to do…

Here is how you play it. When you call her and set up the date, tell her to MEET YOU outside of your place, so that you can ride in your car together and go to the date location.

(Bar, restaurant, coffee shop, whatever.)

How To Get Younger Women

 

get a hot younger girlfriendWomen ALWAYS agree to this. Because A), they are curious about where you live. They are nosy! They want to check out the exterior of your home/apartment/condo.

(Notice, you didn’t say “come over and hang out at my place.” You said, “meet me OUTSIDE my place so that we can ride to the restaurant together.”

And B), they feel more comfortable riding in your car with you, especially if the date location is a place they are not familiar with.

You know how women are with driving — they’d really rather not do it…

OK, now here is how to use this Tactic when dating younger women —

When her car pulls up to your place, go outside — like you’re ready to go on the date — and then tell her you forgot to do something. You need to go back inside and send an email or make a phone call:

“Hey! How are you…oh my God, I just remembered, I need to send an email (or make a phone call) before we go. It’s for my work. Come inside for a minute.”

She will agree to this. Naturally, she is curious to see the INTERIOR of where you live.

So escort her into your place…

Pour her a glass of wine (or some water, if she doesn’t drink), and then you go into the other room and pretend to handle your phone call or email.

The idea is this: you are letting her get familiar with your place. Now it is no longer an unknown environment to her.

While you spend 5 or 10 minutes in the other room, you are leaving her alone to check out your pad.

And trust me, she WILL check it out. She’ll snoop around a bit, take a look at your pictures, perhaps look inside your refrigerator… she’ll look for any evidence of a girlfriend (or wife) you didn’t mention…

And this means you MUST have a clean place. Your bathroom has to be extremely clean. I’m talking STERILE — open-heart surgery could be performed inside your bathroom! That’s how clean it should be.

Why? Because she will probably want to use it. (Scented candles and very plush bath towels will make the right impression on her.)

So, after 5 or 10 minutes, you finish up your “business” and you come back into the living room and rejoin her. Now the two of you get in your car and go on your date. That all sounded very simple. But what you just did with her is HUGE on a psychological level. Because, at the end of the date, when you suggest going back to your place — to have a glass of wine, watch a movie, or whatever other Tactic you use from my book — she ALREADY KNOWS your environment.

She already KNOWS that your home is a comfortable place to go back to, and chill out. It’s clean, comfortable, and she already knows you’re not some horndog who is going to try to jump on top of her the moment she comes in the door. So you take her out for a nice time, you get her back to your place, and that is when the MAGIC happens… Click here for more

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Bring Her Into Your World Instead of Trying to Get Into Hers.

A good friend and former student of mine is 45 years old and regularly dates women in their early 20’s. He’s incredible now, but he wasn’t very good with women less than two years ago. He got to this point by going out a few days a week and practicing in bars, clubs, and during the day as well.

So, he was recently chatting with one of these women. She’s twenty years his junior, and he’d been seeing her for some time.   They were watching the show “Top Chef” on TV. One of the hosts, the stunning Padma Lakshmi, is a model and the former wife of Salmon Rushdie (a highly respected author who is seven years older than her father, and not exactly conventionally handsome).

The woman he was with commented that she couldn’t believe Lakshmi could marry someone so much older and uglier. “What do you mean?” he responded. “She’s just a pretty girl.  She was born pretty. He’s one of the world’s greatest living authors.”

What a fantastic answer!  An interesting look came over her face as she realized that his comment also had some bearing on their relationship.

Her world seems shiny and exciting from the outside. But as an older man, your world is actually so much more interesting and rich, with so much more to offer. Don’t even try to play the game of trying to compete in her world.  You’ll lose. Instead, let her discover your world and all the amazing things you have to offer.

Embrace the Age Difference

You may be wondering if you are too old for her, and you may find yourself wanting to convince her that you aren’t. Perhaps she’s even brought it up.

Instead of trying to convince her that you aren’t too old for her, you should embrace the age difference. Start questioning whether she is experienced enough for you.

My 45-year-old friend is excellent at embracing the age difference.   He’ll ask the women whether they’ve seen “Midnight Cowboy,” “Mean Streets,” and “The Graduate,” three edgy classics from the golden age of American cinema, the late 60’s and early 70’s.

When she says no, he shakes his head and laments, “You need me, sistah. You realize that, right?  Now, I have to figure out if I need you.” These movies are in his DVD collection, so this sets up a nice movie night with take-out at his place.

He will also ask them about other experiences, like travel, restaurants, and books.  But when he “asks,” he’s really challenging her, because at her age there is no way she could have as many interesting experiences as he.

Make Her Feel Special

One of the challenges of dating someone who lives in such a different world than yours is being able to appreciate her. Sure, she looks sexy, and she’d certainly be a blast in bed, but how do you connect with a girl who lives in such a different world?

Well, how do you connect with anyone?   Building a connection with a woman comes down to making her feel special, making her feel valued, making her feel unique different than every other girl in the world.

And you don’t do this by showering her with compliments from the start. When you first meet a woman, particularly a younger one, you can’t act completely won over by her within the first minute.You want to be interested, but a little bit aloof, and gradually show more interest as she qualifies herself to you. Notice I said that she is qualifying herself to you.

You shouldn’t be sitting there talking on and on and on about everything in your life.  This will only show how badly you want to impress her. And trust me, she won’t be impressed.

The idea is to get her talking. Remember, it’s how you make her feel about herself, rather than how you make her feel about you. All it takes is a bit of genuine interest to make her feel like you’ve really gotten to know her.

But how can you possibly relate to someone so young, someone who lives in another world than you?   On top of that, how can you relate when you, as an older man, have so much to offer her, so much experience, so many great things that will be difficult for her match?

The answer is that no matter where you are in life, we all share commonalities.   We all have struggles and hopes and fears. We all feel joy and sadness.

Connect with her on the emotion. Open yourself up to her as well on an emotional level.  While commonalities can certainly help to build friendships, you celebrate the differences with your friends and learn from other people because of those differences.

The same holds true with younger women. You can learn so much from each other, if you can learn to connect on an emotional level.

Be Willing To Suck At This At the Beginning…

I coach a lot of younger guys as well as older guys. Sometimes I think to myself, “Oh man, I wish I’d learned to do this stuff in college!”

But being a little bit older has its advantages. There are certain advantages to having lived a little longer, to having been around the block once or twice.

I know how to motivate myself.  I have so much knowledge, insight and experience at my disposal that I didn’t have twenty years ago.

That experience makes my learning in the realm of women all that much richer and enjoyable. It takes a little bit of practice to get good at it.

You may not be successful the first few times you do it. You may think to yourself, “I’m good at so many things, why aren’t I good at this?”

But you know as well as I do: getting good at something you are not good at requires ACCEPTANCE that you aren’t good at it.

If you want to learn to play the drums, you have to be willing to sit in front of that drum kit and be all thumbs for a while until you get a feel for it.

The pain and struggle starts to become less and less, and the fun and creative expression starts to increase, the more you practice.

You won’t be a genius at this at first. And that’s okay. But keep working at it, and pretty soon you will have those hot young women in your life.

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Skills You Must Master To Succeed With Younger Women

Tell Great Stories.

A boring older guy will never be able to attract younger women. To connect with a younger woman, you will need to reveal personal information about yourself and reveal it in an interesting manner.

So what’s the key to telling interesting stories? I suggest you  actually sit down and think about your life, and write down some of the more interesting experiences you’ve had. Be detailed. What lessons did you learn? How did they change your view of the world, and of yourself? Or perhaps there wasn’t any “moral” to the story…it was just a fun, crazy experience that women will enjoy hearing about.

Once you’ve worked on your stories, find ways to use them in conversations with women. A good story will hook her interest. These are just a few examples (and you can come up with your own):

  • An interesting place you have been to recently
  • The most fascinating person you’ve ever met
  • What you would like to do when you get older
  • What you would like to learn in the future
  • A frightening experience you had when you were young
  • A person you like to spend time with
  • The most exciting, heart-pounding experience you ever had
  • A favorite pet you had as a child
  • A place you would like to visit in the future
  • A person you hope to meet some day
  • A person who has influenced your life
  • Something you have never done, but would like to do
  • Something you have done, but never want to do again
  • An experience which made you laugh uncontrollably
  • An experience which made you cry
  • What you would do if you were President of your country

Get Lucky

I know this probably sounds like a major oversimplification, to tell you to “get lucky.” Isn’t this about learning specific skills? Yes, meeting younger women is about learning a set of skills. But don’t ever forget that luck is a part of it.

Sometimes you go out, all the stars in the universe align, and you just seem to get lucky. You meet a woman and the conversation flows as if you’re two old friends who have been reunited.

Or you go to a bar, make contact with a woman, and you effortlessly hook up with her. (Actually, there was effort involved you had to show up, open your mouth, and take some risks.)

There’s always some degree of luck involved. The good news is that to a large degree, you can create your own luck. I remember once having a conversation with a very famous actor, and I asked him whether success in Hollywood was about being “in the right place, at the right time.”

He explained to me that in the early years of his career, he hustled relentlessly for acting gigs. He attended every audition and networking opportunity he possibly could.

He believed that if he was everywhere all the time, eventually he’d find himself in the right situation to capitalize on an opportunity. And that’s exactly what happened.

Naturally, when he became a big star, those were who jealous of his success attributed it to “luck.”  But in reality, it’s like the quote says: Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.

I see a lot of guys either taking no action and complaining about their lack of “luck” with women, or they go out and feel like they have to try super hard to meet women. Well, neither approach works so well with meeting younger women. Doing nothing obviously produces no results. On the other hand, when you are obviously trying super hard with younger women, you give off a needy, high-strung vibe that women find repellent.

Going out with a relaxed attitude, and an openness to whatever comes your way, is the ultimate mindset. The other essential component is knowing in your gut that sometimes you will lucky, and sometimes you won’t. Either way, we say go out anyway and work on meeting and scoring with younger women.

Get Into Her Reality.

This shouldn’t come as a shocker to you, but the reality is that younger women are generally bored shitless by how most men talk to them. Most guys do not, in fact, relate to women at all. They talk about topics women, and especially younger women, could care less about. They talk about their jobs, their computers, car, sports, and technical and mechanical topics that just end up turning off women completely.

What do women care about? In a nutshell, they care about emotions, travel, unusual topics, psychology, what makes people tick, and most of all, THEMSELVES. So, your job is to get into her world as much as possible and ask the sorts of questions that will encourage her to reveal herself to you.

The mistake happens when you, the man, ask too many questions and do not reveal anything about yourself. The conversation becomes too one-sided and feels more like an interrogation than a dialogue. Remember, a conversation is two-way street. When you share something about yourself, you should shift the focus back the other way and learn something about her.

As you converse with younger women, slip outside of your normal perspective and get into her reality. Learn about how she views life, what she deeply cares about, her likes and dislikes, her dreams, her aspirations, and her fantasies.

Ask Amazing Questions

As an older guy, it’s especially important to understand the art of building rapport, and how to elicit and talk about interesting material. If not, you are sunk. This is one of the critical areas that separate the men from the boys.

As I mentioned earlier, most guys approach women in extremely boring and predictable ways. They ask cliché, uninspiring questions. You need to find ways to ask her questions that challenge her to think in new ways. At the same time, asking amazing questions can create a fun atmosphere.

Here are a few different types of questions that you can ask a woman to create great connections. These are not the most slick or sexual questions you can ask a woman (you shouldn’t be asking those sorts of questions until after you’ve hooked her interest, anyway). But these questions will give you some general ideas about generating interesting conversations:

Interesting Personal questions…

  • Do you have any phobias?
  • Tell me three things you like about yourself.
  • If you could have had the starring role in one film already made, which movie would you pick?
  • What do you consider to be the most valuable thing you own— maybe not in terms of its price, but its personal value to you?
  • If someone made a movie about your life, what would they call it?
  • If you were in the “MissAmerica” talent competition, what would your talent be?

 Personal, Playful and fun Questions…

  • You have complete access to your city for 24 hours. It’s April Fool’s Day. What prank would you pull off?
  • If you could steal one thing and get away with it, what would it be?
  • What is the stupidest pickup line a guy has ever used on you?
  • If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do?
  • What is your best scar? Tell the story of how you got it.
  • What’s one thing about you that people would be surprised to know?

Personal, deep questions…

  • If you won the lottery tomorrow, and never had to work another day in your life, how would you spend your time?
  • If you could have any job in the world, which one would you want, and why?
  • What’s the kindest act you have ever experienced (something  you did for someone, or something they did for you)?
  • What person has influenced your life the most? Why?
  • Did you ever have a really important turning point in your life?
  • What scares you the most?
  • If you could ask God a question, what would it be?
  • What’s the most important thing to you in life?

Clarification Questions…

As she talks and reveals things to you, you should keep the momentum moving along by asking “clarifying questions.” These give her the sense that you’re listening attentively and are sincerely interested. They also encourage her to keep talking and revealing.

•    What do you mean by ______?

•    Why do you think that’s true?

•    What are your reasons for saying that?

•    Why did you say that?

•    Where did you get this idea?

•    Have you always felt this way?

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Dating Tips For Men – How To Get A Sexy Younger Girlfriend

Dating Tips And Advice For Men

Look, if you’d rather be dating and hooking up with beautiful younger women — and you DON’T want to date bitter single mothers, angry feminists, or girls who come with a lot of baggage — the important thing to keep in mind is that younger babes actually PREFER to be with older guys.

(Actually, you can learn exactly how to become the older guy that younger women desire by going to our How To Date Younger Women site.)

You can absolutely succeed with dating younger women. It’s true.Over the past 200-plus years, the United States government has been taking note of statistics for the ages of men and women getting married. And every year, there is a more significant gap between the ages of women and men who marry each other.

The bottom line is, the average age difference between guys and their wives continues to get bigger.

Here’s another interesting statistic: men who marry for a second time are usually doing it with women who are around 10 years younger.

Here’s something else to ponder: in 20% of these second marriages, the man is over 20 years younger than his spouse.

{A wife who is two decades younger?? Oh no! The “Femi-Nazis” get enraged when they hear this! They’ll say it’s bizarre! Perverted!

Ironically, no one seems to care if the guy is rich and famous. Then he is basically expected to hook up with a much younger spouse.

I mean, no one batted an eye when Donald Trump re-married and got hitched to some stunning young model. Years later, they still seem exceedingly content with each other.

How To Get Hot Younger Girlfriend

dating tips for menWhat about the Hollywood star Michael Douglas? (He’s married to Catherine Zeta-Jones, the insanely hot actress. ‘Nuff said.) I could go on and on. It’s a very long list. The fact is, it is EXPECTED for successful guys to marry babes who are many years younger than they are.

So why, exactly, do older guys have such a powerful desire to be with a younger spouse? It goes a lot deeper than just wanting a hot young babe. It’s because this is what men are biologically hard-wired to want: a youthful, hot, fertile stunner who will bear him healthy children.

Moreover, it’s not only about sex and procreation. According to research, it’s been demonstrated that a younger wife can quite literally extend a man’s life span. Her youth is literally contagious and will keep her husband active (and not just in the bedroom!)

When you come right down to it, the yearning to date younger women is a normal, healthy desire.

To start attracting younger women there is a tactic you need to start utilizing. It is a technique that I use all the time, and I’ve seduced striking younger women right out from under their bad-boy 22 year old lovers! Just promise me you won’t share this secret with too many guys. This trick, and many others, are found in our free seduction guide which you can download now at the Dating Younger Women website

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Modern Courtship for Mature Men by Dimitri Vorontzov

Dimitri Vorontzov was born in Moscow and spent childhood and adolescence in Siberia. He was educated as a composer, church organist, and orchestra conductor, taught music in college, and learned to fly airplanes with Russian Air Force.

After Dimitri moved to US, he worked several years in a story department of a film production company, and taught advanced motorcycle riding. These days, Dimitri runs a multi-profile corporation and gives private instruction in courtship to selected students.

So what’s the best way to pick up and date a younger woman, when you’re a guy over the age of 40?

Off the top of my head, I’m tempted to dismiss the question. In a sense, it’s like asking, “what’s the best way to drive when you’re over 40?”

This is because I believe that fundamentally, dating younger women does not require a different set of skills once you’re of a certain age. I also believe that the skills of modern pickup and dating are so fundamentally simple that it only takes slightly more effort and practice to activate these skills than it takes to become, say, a grandmaster in the art of brushing one’s teeth.

I am certain that when we are dealing with something as basic as pickup, a man’s age presents a relatively irrelevant contributing factor.

I’m going to address the simplicity of pick-up and dating in a moment. But first, let’s discuss the notion of being an “older man.”

I am strongly against any self-categorizing. Being an “older man” is in most cases a self-assigned label—a useless attempt to define oneself by belonging to a certain group. It’s self-imposed imprisonment. When a man says, “I am this” (“I” = “this”), he negates his ability to change, and he kills his own ability to be spontaneous and grow.

I find this approach to be strategically harmful, as well as false. I know from experience that human beings can, and should, be fluid.

I also know it’s possible for me to describe the best dating tactics for all men over forty. But perhaps that’s not even necessary. What I prefer to do is speak to just one man.

The one who is reading these words now.

YOU.

I’m not interested in trying to save the entire generation of “older men.” Let’s leave them to their own means. They’ll take care of themselves. (Or they won’t; it’s up to them.)  What we need to do is to create an exception.

I want you to become that exception.

Now I’m going to keep my promise and explain why I find pickup and dating so simple.

During my career as a “hitch,” acting as a wingman to guys in need of dating help, I’ve come to recognize a few simple, obligatory Tasks that a man has to accomplish in order to pick up a woman.

Each Task is accomplished via a corresponding simple and effective Action.

The Task/Action combo forms a Tactic. The sequence of Tactics is the Algorithm. Now, here’s the sample Algorithm for a typical daytime pick-up (Task/Action):

1)      Choose a woman / Observe

2)     Approach / Walk up to her

3)     Engage / “Excuse me

4)     Start the dialog / “I can see you’re reading about interior design. So besides that, what else are you into?”

5)     Gather intel / “I’m hanging out here by myself; what about you?”

6)     Expand the dialog / “Now you’ve made me curious. I want to find out more about you…”

7)     Move locations / “Let’s get some coffee over there, and chat a bit more.”

8)     Touch / Place your arm around her waist to direct her to the coffee shop (or if in a bookstore, the coffee area)

9)     Express interest (“Your sense of humor turns me on”) / Get contact info (“So what’s the best way to get in touch with you?”)

10)  Activate contact info / Call, send a text message, or email her within 30 minutes after you left, if possible.

If every Task is accomplished, a successful pickup has taken place.

Now obviously, every woman is unique; every situation is unique; and women in various situations will display a unique set of reactions.

But I hope you won’t deny that if you don’t request her contact info, you are not likely to see that woman again. That makes requesting her contact info an obligatory Task. And, of course, you have to approach a woman and engage her, if you want her to know that you exist. This makes Approach and Engage other obligatory Tasks…and so on.

(I admit there might be exceptions; for example, she might be a trainer at your gym and you see her regularly anyway; or, she is the one who approaches and engages you. Such situations make the pickup even simpler.)

It’s axiomatic that a man in his forties can say, “I’d like to find out more about you” and “What’s the best way to get in touch with you?” as easily as a man in his early twenties. For the older man, articulating these kinds of words does not present any greater challenge of such magnitude. Let’s have no argument about that. With some aspects of pickup, I believe there are no “advanced techniques.”

From my perspective, there are only two things to remember about body language. There are only four really important techniques for verbal improvisation (and only about a dozen of easy and fun secondary skills). There’s only so much to learn about grooming and style. There’s only one condition you want to be in physically: fit. Age has little to do with any of these things.

I could have also added that mature, experienced, accomplished men tend to have an aura that makes them “walking aphrodisiacs” in the eyes of a great many young, gorgeous women—but this is something you’ve probably figured out already.

But I don’t want to oversimplify the matter, or come across as unrealistically positive by just telling you, “you can do it!” There are indeed some challenges, which we must address.

Working regularly with students in their forties, fifties, and beyond, I’ve learned to recognize a few archetypal mindsets among men who wrongly define themselves by their belonging to a certain age group.

I want you to take a look at the archetypes below, and see if you recognize any of their traits in your own personality and attitude. If you notice anything familiar, I want you to seriously consider how these qualities have been holding you back in your pursuit of women and why it might be a good idea, and a perfect time, to shed this baggage. Click here for more tips.

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The 5 Key Topics Women Love to talk about

This is not a complete list, but a very basic one so you can easily memorize it. Here are the top 5 topics you can use in any conversation with a woman to create a connection: 

1. Travel/vacations

2. Food

3. Fashion/clothing

4. Movies, books, forms of drama

5. Celebrities, people in the news, current events

Talk about your job in an interesting way.

This is such an important detail that it requires its own heading. When you meet anyone for the first time you will inevitably talk about what you do for a living.

If you talk about what you do in a lame and boring way, you will immediately turn her off. Furthermore, how you talk about your job tells her a TON about you.

Let’s say you have a pretty standard job, like you’re an accountant or a computer programmer.

Both of these careers, on the surface, are not too thrilling to talk about. (Actually, there aren’t that many jobs/careers outside of being a rock star or professional athlete that women do find incredibly compelling and interesting.)

This means that rather than talk about the details of what you do (or even worse, how much you dislike what you do), you can come up with interesting and funny stories about weird people you work with, or unusual experiences you’ve had at your job.

For example, if you’re an accountant, the pressures of tax season are not interesting, but the story of your day trader client who lost a million bucks and fled to Mexicois interesting.

Or a story about how you saved a single mother with four kids a ton of money, and helped her out by doing her taxes for free. (That’s interesting, and demonstrates what a great guy you are.)

Or, maybe there’s some wild office gossip or something hilarious that happened at last year’s company Christmas party that you can share with her.

If your job is fairly interesting maybe you’re a police officer, a writer, or a musician it’s the stories and experiences that women will find fascinating, not the mundane details.

A writer like myself, for example, can talk about the pressures of deadlines and how I’ve been chained to my computer for days or, I can tell women about the most interesting celebrity I’ve ever interviewed, or the craziest night I ever had in New York City when I visited there on a book promotion tour.

You should have work-related stories that convey suspense, intensity, drama, and moments of humor. Invest the time to come up with stories about your job, practice telling then out loud, and then try them out on women.

And Most Importantly, Talk to A TON Of Younger Women…

I don’t need to tell you that finding amazing women is, to a certain extent, a numbers game. If you talk to enough women you will find some really hot and interesting ones, but you must go out and talk to a ton of them to find the special few you “click” with.

There are other reasons to have this wide variety of interactions and experiences. You need the practice, first of all. And more  importantly, you can’t expect to just get lucky.

You will occasionally get shot down, or screw things up. It will take some time and practice to score that beautiful younger woman you’ve been picturing in your head, and as with any skill, the more you work on it the better, and more confident, you will become.  Click here for more tips on how to date young chicks.

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How To Pick Up Younger Women At Bars

A typical conversation between a guy and a girl at a bar might sound something like this…

HIM: So what do you do?

HER: I’m a school teacher.

HIM: Oh really? Cool. What grade do you teach?

HER: Eighth grade.

HIM: Ah, ok…so do you enjoy being a teacher?

HER: Yeah, I love it.

HIM: That’s cool…um…so how long have you been a teacher? (He’s already running out of steam.)

There is no rule that says you’ve got to stick with whatever topic is being discussed at the moment. You never want to run out of steam, and bouncing from one topic to the next can keep things interesting.

The idea is that YOU control the flow.

For example, you’re standing next to a girl at the bar. You look at her, make eye contact, give her a smile, and say…

YOU: “I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye.”

HER: “What makes you say that?”

YOU:  “Well, I’m sure a lot of guys judge you based on your looks, but you’ve got a deeper, more complicated side that they don’t know about. I’m right, aren’t I.”

HER: “I guess that’s true.”

YOU: “OK then, so let me ask you a hypothetical question, and this question is really interesting because it reveals a lot about a person.

If you could have the power to fly, or the power to be invisible, which would you want?”

HER: “Hmmm, I guess the power to be invisible.”

YOU: “That’s very interesting. Now tell me why you would want that power…”

Now you’re immersed in a cool conversation. You’re capturing her imagination, instead of asking the same old “job interview” questions while she sizes you up and thinks of all the reasons why she shouldn’t keep talking to you.

Listen for transitional words and topics that will allow you to take the conversation in new directions, and plant seeds about your own positive qualities (without sounding like you’re bragging).

For example, if she says, “I’d want to be invisible so that no one can bother me at my job. I can’t stand dealing with rude customers all day…”

…you could jump on the word “job” and use it to transition to that subject. Then take this opportunity to mention how passionate you are about what you do.

If she would want the power to fly, maybe it’s because she would visit some interesting, exotic locale. Now you can move onto the subject of travel. If you haven’t done much international travel, that’s okay: you can mention some amazing place that you’re planning to visit, and relate some details about it that make her imagine going there with you someday.

Another rule of dynamic conversation is that you should keep her in a positive, enthusiastic frame of mind as much as possible. If things take a negative turn, and she starts complaining about something (her ex-boyfriend, her bitchy roommate, her asshole boss, etc.), it’s your job to take her mind off the negative and keep things on a positive track.

So let’s rewind, back to when she says…

HER: “I’d want to be invisible so that no one can bother me at my job. I deal with so many obnoxious customers, I don’t even know why I work there…”

YOU: “My opinion is, if you’re going to have a job, you might as well make it something you’re passionate about. I’m fortunate, I’m really love what I do.”

HER: “So what do you do?”

YOU: “Well, I didn’t come out tonight to talk about work, but let’s just say I’m well compensated and it’s the perfect use of my talents.”

HER: “Hmm, ok…”

YOU: “So tell me, if had a hundred million bucks in the bank—let’s say you won the lottery—how would you spend your days? What would you be passionate about doing, if you never had to worry about paying another bill?”

Here’s another example of  an original approach, followed through with Conversation Control:

YOU: Are you friendly or mean?

HER: Why do you ask?

YOU: You look a little bit mean, but I think it’s just a front. You’re actually a sweetheart, once people get to know you.

HER: Yes, I’d like to think I’m sweet.

YOU: Let me ask you something. My best friend Jay broke up with his girlfriend about a week ago. And he really wants to ask out one of her friends, but he’s worried that it’s too soon. Should a guy wait a certain amount of time before he asks out a friend of his ex? Is there a rule for this?

HER: I think he should give it a few weeks at least.

HIM: A few weeks, hmm. That makes sense. I bet you’re the girl that all of your friends come to for “guy advice.” You have a knack for this stuff; maybe you should have your own talk show.

HER: (laughing) Well, my sister had something similar happen. She met this guy when she was in college…

HIM: Where did she go to school?

HER:Princeton.

HIM: Really? I went to (name a school). I majored in business, with a minor in throwing parties. Which reminds me…you’re invited to this party I’m throwing next month, I’m just trying to decide what theme to go with. I was thinking toga party, but that’s so played out…maybe “pimps n’ hos,” because I’ve got this killer fur coat and a giant wide-brimmed hat I could wear…but then I started thinking, maybe a 1980s theme would be cool. Just think of the party playlist I could put together for my iPod. Banarama, the Go-Gos, Journey, Men at Work, Duran Duran…who I am forgetting?”

As you can see, within the space of the first minute, you’ve planted cool seeds about yourself and taken the conversation in interesting, unpredictable directions. You’ve engaged her imagination, and you’re relating to her on a level that most guys would never get to. And you didn’t need to stay on any particularly topic…you bounced around to keep things moving along. (By the way, you can always return later on to any of the topics you touched on earlier and then moved away from.)

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It’s Just Too Scary To Talk To Younger Women Part 1

The number one barrier that older guys face with younger women is fear: fear of rejection, fear of being seen as a dirty old man, fear of women thinking they are creeps, and fear of women in general.

Fear is about your brain telling you to watch out for danger. Your heart starts pounding fast and hard, your brain goes on overdrive, and you can’t think straight. Some guys even feel nauseous, or freeze dead in their tracks when they feel a wave of fear. And the even worse news is that fear is like an untrained dog: the more you let it shit on the carpet or ignore your commands, the more it will run the show.

In essence, every time you buy into your fear and avoid approaching and talking to women, fear wins out and runs your life just a little more. Conversely, every time you challenge your fear and act in spite of it, it shrinks.

The only way to conquer your fear of approaching younger women is to get out there and start doing it. I recommend you start doing it slowly, over time. Go to a mall on a Saturday and say “hi” to 10 women, and see how it goes. From there, start using the skills we cover in article and build up your confidence.

“Just do it” is not an empty slogan; it’s a reality. You simply have to do this, or you will get a younger woman.

They’ll Disqualify Me Because Of My Age

Another bullshit excuse that older guys use to deny themselves the opportunity to meet younger women is holding the belief that younger women won’t like them, be interested in them, or even want to talk to them because of the age difference.

Here’s the bottom line: some younger chicks won’t dig you. But  guess what: even if you were a buff 24-year-old rock star, some chicks wouldn’t like you, either.

That said, here are the statistics that I’ve seen out in the dating scene. Roughly 25-30% of younger chicks will not be interested at all in dating an older man period. 10-15% really WANT to date an older guy and will find it hot and interesting.

The rest of the women, the remaining 50-60%, are somewhat to very open to dating an older guy. Those are pretty decent numbers for you, and armed with the skills in this book you’ll be set to find the women who are open to you.

The rest can fall by the wayside.  It is complete bullshit that most younger women will rule you out because of your age. Some will, but I believe most won’t as long as project the right attitude, and put the correct skills into action.

I Have Nothing To Talk About…

Later in this article we’re going to teach you a wide range of topics to talk to women about. If you’ve ever found yourself going  “blank” when you talk to women, you need to work on your conversational skills ASAP! The number one thing you bring to the table with younger women, along with life experience, is your conversational skills. Without them, you will be a dismal failure.

The good news is that you can indeed learn these skills, and with a little work you will be above the pack in no time.

They’ll Think I’m A Dirty Old Man.

This is another crippling limiting belief. The majority of younger women will not assume you’re a “dirty old man,” but if you’re overly concerned about coming across this way,  you will communicate this negative vibe you talk to younger women.

You need to reconcile this within yourself. Psychologists have shown time and again that if we have a dominant thought, fear or concern, we find ways to make it real. If, for example, I am scared of being insulted, I will walk around all day looking for situations where someone insults me. If I am worried all the time that people think I am ugly or fat, I will be hyper aware of the people around me, and subconsciously I’ll even search out people who will judge me as a fat and ugly slob, since it confirms my internal belief.

So, if you are hyper worried about people judging you as a dirty old man, or as a creepy older guy, you will likely illicit that response from younger women. Believing you are a dirty old man usually comes from aspect of a Judeo Christian background, and at some level ties into a belief that sex is bad. If this is an issue you struggle with, you need to find ways to work on it. You may need to logically dissect it, or simply become aware of this belief and choose to stop believing it. Click here for more information on how to date young girls.

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Don’t Make That Mistake! Thoughts by Eric Disc

by Eric Disco, Pickup 101 Head Instructor and

There are a thousand things you could say to a woman. But what good are they if you can’t walk up to her and say them? Every guy who wants to improve his lot with women has considered this before. In reality, walking up to a woman and starting a conversation shouldn’t be that difficult but for some men, the thought of doing so can completely paralyze them! Or, they allow their minds to generate all of the reasons why they SHOULDN’T walk up to her and say hello. (She’s probably stuck-up…she must have a boyfriend…I’m not the type of guy she would go for…she’s going to think I’m hitting on her…etc.)

Before ever hearing the word ‘pickup,’ Eric wondered what was keeping him from talking to women. Logically it should have been easy, but physically, it was impossible for him to break through that barrier. Years later, after becoming a head pickup instructor for one of the most respected companies in this industry, he still wrestles with the question: Why are men so afraid to walk up to women and talk to them?

His blog, approachanxiety.com, is one of the most popular blogs on the internet for men who want to learn how to meet women. He’s helped countless guys learn to accept the fear and excitement that goes along with meeting women. Men who once had given up on themselves are now out there approaching, dating and seducing women they never would have interacted with before.

Through his writings, his probing podcasts with dating gurus, and his in-person coaching, Eric Disco has one aim: to help men find their true inner confidence. If you can learn to be comfortable, confident and yourself around women you’ve just met, the rest is easy.

And so, we asked Eric to share his thoughts on approaching and meeting younger women. Here’s what this expert had to say…

It’s an easy mistake.

She’s young.  She’s gorgeous.  She’s fashionable and hip.

She knows all the cool lingo and hangs out with young people.

It seems like the universe revolves around her—and she often acts like it does.

Perhaps she’s sitting there in a cafe, or a bookstore or in a park.  And you wonder what her life must be like.

Wild parties and adventures.

She probably dates rock stars.

And there’s you. You lead a normal life.

“What could I possibly offer her?” you think to yourself.

Perhaps you have money.  But you’re smart enough to know that showering her with lavish gifts only backfires—big time.

Younger women often talk about how they’ll let older men take them out and spend money on them, but they won’t hook up with them.

Perhaps you could show her some comfort.  You have a nice home and drive a nice car.

But all of this seems to pale in comparison to the exciting life she probably leads.

As for me, I love dating younger women.  I also love dating women my age. I even date women older than me.

One of the beautiful things about dating younger women is that it truly shows what dating and relationships are about, and what they aren’t about.

Once you start approaching women a lot, so many things start to fade into the background—things that used to seem relevant.

Am I handsome enough?

Am I rich enough?

Am I too short, too bald, or too fat?

And of course: Am I too old?

If you’ve approached enough women, you know that how you make her feel about you is far less important than how you make her feel about herself.

You know that you aren’t trying to get into her world and show her that you can function in it.  You are letting her discover your world.

You begin to see that everything you have between the two of you is what you have right there in the moment when you are with her.

All that other stuff doesn’t matter.

If you can make her smile and play with her, she’ll play back.

If you can make her feel unique and special, she will always come back for more.

Based on my experience, approaching thousands of women and coaching many guys of all ages, these are the most important aspects an older guy should look at when dating younger women.

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