If you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or even beyond, and you want to be with hot younger women, this is for you. By this way, this is also for you if you ever date women who are different from you we’re focused on age differences here, but many of these techniques can be translated for dating across cultures, borders, language, and so on.
Far too many men think that you have to be rich, famous, or have the moves of a professionally-trained Love Systems lead instructor to date young, beautiful women.
This is a MYTH.
It comes from older women or younger men who don’t want the competition. And it comes from some older guys themselves. Sometimes it’s just easier to give up on your goals because they are impossible than it is to pursue them.
In other words, it can be tough knowing that there are guys who are no better than you having the time of their lives and dating young, beautiful women and not just for looks, either.
It’s not politically correct to say this, but as someone who prefers to date younger women myself, I prefer to date women who have less baggage, less cynicism, and more love of life and adventure. Some single older women can come off jaded.
Powerful Dating Techniques
LOVE SYSTEMS TIP #1: Don’t force yourself into her world
About a year ago, I was leading a Love Systems boot camp in New York. Boot camps usually have 8-10 guys (and 3-5 instructors), and one of the students was a recently divorced man in his late 40s I’ll call “Brian.”
Brian didn’t want to settle for the divorcee circuit, full of endless dinner dates with women his age complaining about their ex-husbands. He even told me about one date when the woman told him it annoyed her when her ex-husband wanted sex because “sex is for teenagers.”
Brian wanted to date young, beautiful, fun women, but had mostly given up. He told me his Love Systems boot camp was his “last chance.”
Talk about pressure! Anyway, we weren’t going to let him settle. And some of his problems were obvious. He was going to the 20-something clubs, wearing 20-something clothes, talking in slightly out-of-date TV slang. Women avoided him.
Brian was making the classic mistake that generals and leaders have made throughout history – he was fighting on the enemy’s turf.
Brian’s competition is mostly the young, trendy guys women will see in class or in entry-level jobs every day. And Brian was assuming that he had to beat them at their game be just as young, energetic, cool, and trendy as them.
Look at it this way. If Bill Gates and I wanted the same woman, I’d ask him to pay me off you can be damn sure that I’d change the subject every time “computers” or “having trillions of dollars lying around” came up. I’m not going to fight him on his turf.
The same thing goes for Brian. The women he likes are around young, trendy guys all the time. The road Brian was on, he would at best become a competent imitator, but always inferior to the real thing. So, we flipped the script.
LOVE SYSTEMS TIP #2: Flip the script
We changed Brian’s basic strategy. Instead of talking about MySpace and Tila Tequila or whatever the trend of the moment is, Brian talked about travel, art, and adventure.
Instead of letting him wear clothes too young for him, we put him in a suit. He radiated power and confidence. These are powerful aphrodisiacs, especially in older men.
And instead of trying to order Jaeger shots over blaring music, we took him to lounges and wine bars where his class and sophistication could show through. And where, if anything, the quality of younger women was even higher.
Now we’re fighting on HIS turf. He’s competing based on sophistication, class, power and status. In other words, his strengths.
It doesn’t guarantee success, of course. There’s no point competing on a strength that women don’t care about. And some women ONLY want a guy who fits in at raves and keg parties. Dismiss those.
Most women want a combination of things. So, pick a couple of your strengths and go with those. This is all part of building an identity.
Back to Brian. We go out two nights and have three days of seminar instruction and exercises as part of our comprehensive bootcamp every weekend. On the second night, Brian got three phone numbers, one makeout, and had a smile on his face bigger than any he’d ever had since he was as old as the women he was now confidently approaching.
Here’s part of an email he sent me after the bootcamp:
Savoy, I wanted to thank you guys again for all you did for me last weekend. I truly feel like a changed man. Jessica (the brunette from Saturday) just spent the night, and even though I have nothing planned this weekend, I’m looking forward to the possibilities more than I’ve looked forward to a weekend since high school. I wish I’d known about Love Systems ten years ago.
Of course, flipping the script is easier said than done. That’s why this past April’s volume of the interview series is on Dating Younger Women. It starts off with me and Kisser breaking down the SPECIFIC, actual things you have to do to “flip the script” successfully.
Like we say on the interview, flipping the script doesn’t mean that you should deliberately go out of your way not to have insight into her world. Don’t be a “tired old man” whose interests don’t extend beyond sports, the music you listened to as a kid, and your job.
LOVE SYSTEMS TIP #3: Flip the script, again
Once you’ve flipped the script once, flip it again. Instead of being the older guy chasing younger women, have THEM chase YOU.
This is something all guys should be able to do since it’s such a great technique. It’s especially important for dating younger women.
You’re definitely not going to be the kind of older man whom younger women go nuts for by being “nice” and “sweet” at least at first.
Instead, be the man who has lots of options and who is currently single by CHOICE but she might “tame” you a familiar feeling for many women.
In other words, make HER show that you that she’s classy and sophisticated enough to roll with you. That she can come UP to your level, not that you can go DOWN to hers.
It’s all part of an integrated system your personal game plan to being irresistible to the type of women you want. For more tips on how to date young women, click here.