by Eric Disco, Pickup 101 Head Instructor and
There are a thousand things you could say to a woman. But what good are they if you can’t walk up to her and say them? Every guy who wants to improve his lot with women has considered this before. In reality, walking up to a woman and starting a conversation shouldn’t be that difficult but for some men, the thought of doing so can completely paralyze them! Or, they allow their minds to generate all of the reasons why they SHOULDN’T walk up to her and say hello. (She’s probably stuck-up…she must have a boyfriend…I’m not the type of guy she would go for…she’s going to think I’m hitting on her…etc.)
Before ever hearing the word ‘pickup,’ Eric wondered what was keeping him from talking to women. Logically it should have been easy, but physically, it was impossible for him to break through that barrier. Years later, after becoming a head pickup instructor for one of the most respected companies in this industry, he still wrestles with the question: Why are men so afraid to walk up to women and talk to them?
His blog, approachanxiety.com, is one of the most popular blogs on the internet for men who want to learn how to meet women. He’s helped countless guys learn to accept the fear and excitement that goes along with meeting women. Men who once had given up on themselves are now out there approaching, dating and seducing women they never would have interacted with before.
Through his writings, his probing podcasts with dating gurus, and his in-person coaching, Eric Disco has one aim: to help men find their true inner confidence. If you can learn to be comfortable, confident and yourself around women you’ve just met, the rest is easy.
And so, we asked Eric to share his thoughts on approaching and meeting younger women. Here’s what this expert had to say…
It’s an easy mistake.
She’s young. She’s gorgeous. She’s fashionable and hip.
She knows all the cool lingo and hangs out with young people.
It seems like the universe revolves around her—and she often acts like it does.
Perhaps she’s sitting there in a cafe, or a bookstore or in a park. And you wonder what her life must be like.
Wild parties and adventures.
She probably dates rock stars.
And there’s you. You lead a normal life.
“What could I possibly offer her?” you think to yourself.
Perhaps you have money. But you’re smart enough to know that showering her with lavish gifts only backfires—big time.
Younger women often talk about how they’ll let older men take them out and spend money on them, but they won’t hook up with them.
Perhaps you could show her some comfort. You have a nice home and drive a nice car.
But all of this seems to pale in comparison to the exciting life she probably leads.
As for me, I love dating younger women. I also love dating women my age. I even date women older than me.
One of the beautiful things about dating younger women is that it truly shows what dating and relationships are about, and what they aren’t about.
Once you start approaching women a lot, so many things start to fade into the background—things that used to seem relevant.
Am I handsome enough?
Am I rich enough?
Am I too short, too bald, or too fat?
And of course: Am I too old?
If you’ve approached enough women, you know that how you make her feel about you is far less important than how you make her feel about herself.
You know that you aren’t trying to get into her world and show her that you can function in it. You are letting her discover your world.
You begin to see that everything you have between the two of you is what you have right there in the moment when you are with her.
All that other stuff doesn’t matter.
If you can make her smile and play with her, she’ll play back.
If you can make her feel unique and special, she will always come back for more.
Based on my experience, approaching thousands of women and coaching many guys of all ages, these are the most important aspects an older guy should look at when dating younger women.
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