The number one barrier that older guys face with younger women is fear: fear of rejection, fear of being seen as a dirty old man, fear of women thinking they are creeps, and fear of women in general.
Fear is about your brain telling you to watch out for danger. Your heart starts pounding fast and hard, your brain goes on overdrive, and you can’t think straight. Some guys even feel nauseous, or freeze dead in their tracks when they feel a wave of fear. And the even worse news is that fear is like an untrained dog: the more you let it shit on the carpet or ignore your commands, the more it will run the show.
In essence, every time you buy into your fear and avoid approaching and talking to women, fear wins out and runs your life just a little more. Conversely, every time you challenge your fear and act in spite of it, it shrinks.
The only way to conquer your fear of approaching younger women is to get out there and start doing it. I recommend you start doing it slowly, over time. Go to a mall on a Saturday and say “hi” to 10 women, and see how it goes. From there, start using the skills we cover in article and build up your confidence.
“Just do it” is not an empty slogan; it’s a reality. You simply have to do this, or you will get a younger woman.
They’ll Disqualify Me Because Of My Age
Another bullshit excuse that older guys use to deny themselves the opportunity to meet younger women is holding the belief that younger women won’t like them, be interested in them, or even want to talk to them because of the age difference.
Here’s the bottom line: some younger chicks won’t dig you. But guess what: even if you were a buff 24-year-old rock star, some chicks wouldn’t like you, either.
That said, here are the statistics that I’ve seen out in the dating scene. Roughly 25-30% of younger chicks will not be interested at all in dating an older man period. 10-15% really WANT to date an older guy and will find it hot and interesting.
The rest of the women, the remaining 50-60%, are somewhat to very open to dating an older guy. Those are pretty decent numbers for you, and armed with the skills in this book you’ll be set to find the women who are open to you.
The rest can fall by the wayside. It is complete bullshit that most younger women will rule you out because of your age. Some will, but I believe most won’t as long as project the right attitude, and put the correct skills into action.
I Have Nothing To Talk About…
Later in this article we’re going to teach you a wide range of topics to talk to women about. If you’ve ever found yourself going “blank” when you talk to women, you need to work on your conversational skills ASAP! The number one thing you bring to the table with younger women, along with life experience, is your conversational skills. Without them, you will be a dismal failure.
The good news is that you can indeed learn these skills, and with a little work you will be above the pack in no time.
They’ll Think I’m A Dirty Old Man.
This is another crippling limiting belief. The majority of younger women will not assume you’re a “dirty old man,” but if you’re overly concerned about coming across this way, you will communicate this negative vibe you talk to younger women.
You need to reconcile this within yourself. Psychologists have shown time and again that if we have a dominant thought, fear or concern, we find ways to make it real. If, for example, I am scared of being insulted, I will walk around all day looking for situations where someone insults me. If I am worried all the time that people think I am ugly or fat, I will be hyper aware of the people around me, and subconsciously I’ll even search out people who will judge me as a fat and ugly slob, since it confirms my internal belief.
So, if you are hyper worried about people judging you as a dirty old man, or as a creepy older guy, you will likely illicit that response from younger women. Believing you are a dirty old man usually comes from aspect of a Judeo Christian background, and at some level ties into a belief that sex is bad. If this is an issue you struggle with, you need to find ways to work on it. You may need to logically dissect it, or simply become aware of this belief and choose to stop believing it. Click here for more information on how to date young girls.
